Tag: Sexuality

The Christians are Horny

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In 2022, a couple of evangelical stud muffins posted a startling video to TikTok. In an intimate space charged with emotion and prayer, Christian influencer Ryan Foley nervously confessed his love of trans porn:

Sixth grade, I jumped into some weird categories, man. This is tough. Transgenders having sex with chicks. And why am I watching this stuff? Well, because I’m opening myself up to spirits the more I watch the porn, and I don’t even realize it. And you know, as it gradually goes, it gets darker, and I was watching (groans) transgenders having sex with transgenders, and then dudes. And I’m like, “why am I watching this stuff?” Eventually, the porn’s not going to be enough, just like Ted Bundy – eventually the porn wasn’t enough for Ted Bundy. And he started actually doing the acts, and I started doing the acts. Never, ever thought I’d be doing something like that, know what I’m saying? That’s my quick testimony on porn and how it just dragged me to a dark place.

The answer, Ryan then explained, is submission to Jesus, and realizing that porn was standing between him and God.

“Amen dude,” says his companion,  “powerful testimony, dude.”

I don’t hold Ryan’s sexual preferences against him. Trans porn is one of the most popular categories on the internet, and a lot of guys are into it. There’s also enough sexual pseudoscience and fear-mongering in his short testimony to occupy an entire article. Set all that aside for now.

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The Set and Setting of Porn

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A startling number of men have told me how seasons of porn use have been the darkest times of their lives. They felt like evil monsters and rapists for what often seems to me moderate levels of porn consumption. They describe feelings of shame, depression, and fear, and they hate how it ramps up their sexuality.

In the online “Reboot” community – a vast movement of men abstaining from porn and masturbation – the mood is similarly dark. Men regularly share suicidal feelings, describe themselves as perverts and failures when they “relapse”, and blame their various woes, like erectile dysfunction and struggles to find real-world sex partners, on porn use. (I’m not linking to these communities because, frankly, they are a bit scary and are known to retaliate against criticism.)

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Exploring Sexuality as Language

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Several years ago, as I was journeying out of the traditional theological view of gay marriage, I read an extraordinary book by Dr. James Brownson titled Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing The Church’s Debate on Same-Sex Relationships.

Bible, Gender, Sexuality is a thing of theological beauty: elegant, persuasive, and deeply compassionate. It was the book that allowed me to finally pack my bags and walk with confidence into affirming gay marriage and my own gay orientation.

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